The Principles of NLP

Neuro-Linguistic Programming

“Most of all, Neuro-Linguistic Programming is about freedom”

Dr. Richard Bandler, co-developer of NLP

In a previous post, I briefly touched on what NLP is, how it’s a resource for life coaching practices, and the benefits it’s personally brought me. Neuro-Linguistic Programming applicable in not the life coaching arena, but also is a useful tool for athletes and coaches, those practicing self-help, and even in the corporate world. Suffice to say, NLP can be used in more scenarios and environments than not.

For those hoping to accomplish a specific goal, NLP is an excellent tool, and its key objective is to enhance performance whilst simultaneously giving an individual the tools to control their emotional state in order to simply focus on their goal in life. From loosing weight, to improving relationships, to perfecting athletic skills, the goals that can be reached through NLP aren’t pigeonholed. That’s because, in terms of NLP, the individual defines what success is to them and nobody else. It’s one of the most beautiful and important parts of NLP – so often we struggle to fit others ideas of success and happiness because we’re not listening to our intuition, which is telling us something else.

NLP helps individuals open their eyes to the variety of choices life offers us. However, it shouldn’t be seen as a therapy. Instead, NLP is viewed as more of an “educational process which can be used to do the things that psychotherapy so rarely manages: to bring about lasting and constructive change.” Because it is solution-oriented, NLP does not focus on investigating and picking apart issues in ones life, as psychotherapy so often does, but instead targets the process necessary to reach the outcome the individual is hoping for.

NLP operates off a set of several principles, which are:

  • People should not be defined by their behavior, and once they are accepted, they are free to change their behavior
  • Individuals are already equipped with the tools necessary to succeed and attain specific goals, they just need to learn how to access and unlock them
  • Successful communication should be measured based on the response received. Once an individual becomes a better communicator, they will find others responses will be better and more meaningful
  • The individual is the only person in charge of their mind, and therefore their life. Nobody else.
  • Failure is not an aspect of NLP–difficult experiences are merely feedback to becoming a better communicator and overall person

I utilized NLP as a resource in my own life coaching endeavors. If you’re interested in folding in NLP to your path to success (however you define it!) contact me, Dr. Edwin Perez, on my life coaching services site, Support Anger.