Let’s Talk About NLP – Part 1

I recently had my Life Coaching services website — Support Anger — go live. The site details where my interest in life coaching came from, as well as the methods and ideologies I utilize in my guidance.

One of those methods is Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Or NLP, for short. According to Robert B. Dilts, and author, developer, trainer and consultant in the field of NLP, the method is defined as encompassing “the three most influential components involved in producing human experience: neurology, language and programming.

The neurological system regulations how our bodies function, language determines how we interface and communicate with other people and our programming determines the kinds of models of the world we create. Neuro-Linguistic Programming describes the fundamental dynamics between mind (neuro) and language (linguistic) and how their interplay affects our body and behavior (programming).”

As an epistemology, NLP resonates the most with me when used in life coaching. Throughout my life, I’d experienced feelings of isolation from others due to my feeling of being misunderstood and difficulty connecting with others through conversation. I knew that I needed to manage my own behavior around others, as social interaction is an unavoidable part of a healthy life, so I turned to a number of organizations to work on my own personal growth.

While I was able to learn a lot about myself and managing my behaviors, what I found was that they often seemed to be extremely limited in the scope of what defined a connection.

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They also seemed to acknowledge only part of the human range of emotions, leaving out key emotions such as anger.

After discovering the tenets behind NLP, I’ve found the method resonates much more deeply with me, both in personal and professional practice. I’ve incorporated a tenet of NLP as a mantra I apply to my every day life:

“There is no failure, only feedback. If what you’re doing isn’t working, try something else”


Stay tuned for Part 2 of this post! Thanks