No matter what the cause, low self esteem can feel like a weight on your shoulders. Whether you occasionally feel down, or you’ve noticed some chronic feelings of self-doubt, feeling down on yourself can take a toll on your ability to interact and grow as a person. But, there are small steps that you can take towards building yourself up again. It’s not always an easy process, and requires a great deal of time and patience, but with some effort, you can be on your way to developing an increased sense of self and self worth. Here are a few things you should start incorporating into your life:
Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies; if you start to belittle yourself or think negatively, it’s easy to slip into believing that’s true. Other times, a negative comment, interaction, or individual may hit a nerve and send you spiraling. Whatever the case, it’s important to equip yourself with the tools to combat that negativity. Mantras are the perfect tool for that. Choose a few that resonate with you, memorize them, and use them throughout the day to rid yourself of insecurities and build up your sense of self. Here are some great ones that I’ve come across from various sources:
- I embrace my happy feelings and enjoy being content as I love and appreciate myself.
- I deserve to be happy and feel good every day about all areas in my life.
- I feel secure in who I am, and do not need to compare myself to others.
- It matters little what others say. What matters is how I react and what I believe.
- I love and accept myself unconditionally.
- I consciously release the past and live only in the present. That way I get to enjoy and experience life to the full.
Surround Yourself w/ Positivity
You are the company that you keep. If you note that the people you are associating with most often are negative or abusive, seek out different people to spend time with. Join support groups or activity groups and find others who make you feel cared for, and encourage you to be better.
Focus on What You Can Control
No one has complete control over all of their circumstances, and it’s not beneficial to focus on the things that you cannot change. Instead, focus on what you CAN change and put your energy there instead. Witnessing positive changes in your life that you are responsible will be incredibly helpful and rewarding in the long run.